{"id":159,"date":"2021-07-08T23:19:49","date_gmt":"2021-07-08T23:19:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lyndaklong.com\/?page_id=159"},"modified":"2021-07-09T15:35:27","modified_gmt":"2021-07-09T22:35:27","slug":"resources","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/lyndaklong.com\/home\/resources\/","title":{"rendered":"Resources"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Spotting The Abused Child<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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The four main forms of child abuse: Physical, sexual, psychological and neglect. Which boy is the abused child? Daniel and David were my brothers and although the visual signs in this photo are different, the answer is both. David the younger one smiled way too much even in circumstances that didn\u2019t warrant a smile. It was a fake, stuck on, self reassuring smile that said: <\/span>I\u2019m okay, I\u2019m hanging on, everything is going to be okay.<\/span><\/i> Daniel’s face reflects his pain and suffering yet, there is a look of defiance in his eyes. They were subjected to all forms of child abuse by our father, he is on the right.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Signs of child abuse and neglect:<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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  • Unexplained injuries<\/span><\/li>
  • Changes in behavior<\/span><\/li>
  • Returning to earlier behaviors (thumb-sucking and bed-wetting)<\/span><\/li>
  • Fear of going home<\/span><\/li>
  • Changes in eating<\/span><\/li>
  • Changes in sleeping<\/span><\/li>
  • Changes in school performance and attendance<\/span><\/li>
  • Lack of personal care or hygiene<\/span><\/li>
  • Risk taking behavior<\/span><\/li>
  • Inappropriate sexual behaviors<\/span><\/li>
  • Unusual parent\/child interactions<\/span><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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    • Black eyes<\/span><\/li>
    • Broken bones<\/span><\/li>
    • Bruising in unusual areas of the body<\/span><\/li>
    • Cigarette burns<\/span><\/li>
    • Human bites<\/span><\/li>
    • Lash marks<\/span><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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      • Self mutilation<\/span><\/li>
      • Drug and or alcohol abuse<\/span><\/li>
      • Low self esteem<\/span><\/li>
      • Depression<\/span><\/li>
      • Withdrawn<\/span><\/li>
      • Running away<\/span><\/li>
      • Suicide attempts<\/span><\/li>
      • Hostility or aggression<\/span><\/li>
      • Sexual promiscuity\/ pregnancy\/ sexual transmitted diseases<\/span><\/li>
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        • Appears disturbed or frightened<\/span><\/li>
        • Avoids eye contact or does not talk openly to others<\/span><\/li>
        • Feels anxious, shy, depressed, or withdrawn<\/span><\/li>
        • Hopelessness<\/span><\/li>
        • Low self esteem<\/span><\/li>
        • Difficulties in school<\/span><\/li>
        • Eating disorders leading to weight loss<\/span><\/li>
        • Overly compliant; too well mannered; too neat and clean<\/span><\/li>
        • Frequent psychosomatic complaints such as; headaches, stomach aches<\/span><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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          • Child is inadequately clothed, frequently dirty or has body odor<\/span><\/li>
          • Begs for food or money to buy food<\/span><\/li>
          • Parent exhibits lack of concern for the child\u2019s welfare<\/span><\/li>
          • Child doesn\u2019t appear to receive necessary medical care; eye glasses, dental<\/span><\/li>
          • Role reversal, expecting the child to provide attention, emotional support or other types of care<\/span><\/li><\/ul>

            After an abusive childhood, a child can lessen the chance of these side effects by realizing THEY are now in power!<\/b><\/p>

            • Feelings of worthlessness an unloved<\/span><\/li>
            • Feel guilty for having fun, undeserving of anything good<\/span><\/li>
            • Lack of trust. Always on alert waiting for the other shoe to drop<\/span><\/li>
            • Suspicious of people and their motives<\/span><\/li>
            • Avoid relationships even sabotaging ones you value<\/span><\/li>
            • Fear and dislike of intimacy<\/span><\/li>
            • Spend a lot of time alone for fear of rejection<\/span><\/li>
            • Never speak up during discussions in group settings, afraid of saying something stupid<\/span><\/li>
            • Terrified of \u201cmessing up\u201d and being verbally assaulted for it<\/span><\/li>
            • Deeply wounded by any sort of criticism<\/span><\/li>
            • Fear of abandonment or becoming lost<\/span><\/li>
            • Feelings of never belonging or fitting in<\/span><\/li>
            • Never pursuing achievement because you know you will fail or just the opposite, obsessed by overachieving in everything.<\/span><\/li><\/ul>

              My brothers and I lived with the man who fathered us but was not a father to us. Eventually, all four of us were abandoned on the street. I was 16, Gary 14, Daniel 12, and David was 10 years-old.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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              When Children Grow Up In A Fatherless home:<\/h3>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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              • 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes<\/span><\/li>
              • 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes<\/span><\/li>
              • 71% of high school dropouts come from fatherless homes<\/span><\/li>
              • 80% of rapist with anger problems come from fatherless homes<\/span><\/li><\/ul>

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                Source;<\/span> U.S. Department of Health and Census, Nat Principals Ass. Report, CDC, Justice and Behavior<\/span><\/i> America\u2019s Disturbing Statistics:<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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